music genre: hip and happening heartbroken (sourgraping) women

whatever happened to the old songs where the woman readily embraced the pain of heartbreak?! openly hurting was acceptable, and we looked highly upon the noble songstress who belted out in soulful, doleful notes how she would keep lifting the torch for her man; that she would still be there when he decides to tumble back into her arms. you don’t believe this? remember how you sang this in your school’s talent show: it’s not very easy, living all alone / my friends try and tell me find a man of my own / but each time i try, i just break down and cry / ’cause i’d rather be home feeling blue / so i’m saving all my love for you.

what happened to them is they have been replaced by an “enlightened” new breed of women possessed by the 70’s bra-less women’s liberationists, touched by joni mitchell, tempered by billie jean king.

so the last ten years or so brought us a new brand of pop music that dealt with broken hearts. the forlorn woman’s i-can-live-without-you-a__hole, i-am-brave-and-strong-and-i-can-move-on types of songs. 

here are some of my most notable choices (sing with me now):

All I Have (Jennifer Lopez feat. LL Cool J) 
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‘Cause I’m good holdin’ down my spot / And I’m good reppin’ the girls on the block / And I’m good, I got this thing on lock / So without me you’ll be fine, right / All my pride is all I have (Pride is what you had, baby girl, I’m what you have) / You’ll be needin’ me, but too bad (Be easy, don’t make decisions when you mad) / The path you chose to run alone (I know you’re independent, you can make it on your own) / Here with me you had a home, oh, yeah (But time is of the essence, why spend it alone, huh)

ah yes, the broken hearted runs to the psychiatrists du jour: girlfriends on the block. while a pining ex plagues the cell phone with his “come back to me” overtures. but if you listen to ll cool j’s side, he actually makes a lot of sense. this song must be for the flippant girl. she’ll regret this later.

Too Little, Too Late (Jojo) 
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[Chorus:] It’s just too little too late / a little too wrong / And I can’t wait / But you know all the right things to say (You know it’s just too little too late) / You say you dream of my face / But you don’t like me / You just like the chase / To be real / It doesn’t matter anyway (You know it’s just too little too late) / Yeah yeaaahhh… It’s just too little too late… Mhmmm / [Verse 2:] I was young / And in love / I gave you everything / But it wasn’t enough / And now you wanna communicate (You know it’s just too little too late) / Go find someone else / In letting you go / I’m loving myself / You got a problem / But don’t come asking me for help / Cause you know…

well, well, if it isn’t another girl who fell for the player. haven’t we all been there? and on nights she stares into the abyss and lies in bed with tears streaming down her adolescent face, she also frequently googles the guy’s name, constantly drops by his blog and incessantly looks into his friendster or myspace page…as well as pages of all the other girls he has been dating or has been rumored to be dating. girls just love to torture themselves that way.

Stronger (Britney Spears) 
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Hush, just stop / There’s nothing you can do or say, baby / I’ve had enough / I’m not your property as from today, baby / You might think that I won’t make it on my own / But now I’m… / [Chorus:] Stronger than yesterday / Now it’s nothing but my way / My lonliness ain’t killing me no more / I’m stronger this would make friedrich nietzsche proud. “what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.” or gives me amoebiasis.

Irreplaceable (Beyonce Knowles) 
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Standing in the front yard, telling me / How I’m such a fool, talking ’bout / How I’ll never ever find a man like you / You got me twisted / You must not know ’bout me / You must not know ’bout me / I could have another you in a minute / Matter fact, he’ll be here in a minute (baby) / You must not know ’bout me / You must not know ’bout me / I can have another you by tomorrow / So don’t you ever for a second get to thinkin’ / You’re irreplaceable? this is classic relationship rebound syndrome. yeah, matter of fact, that guy i just met at the bus stop this morning will be here in a minute. (and the song itself is classic last song syndrome. drag queens will sing this in their title acts. to the left, to the left.)

I Belong to Me (Jessica Simpson) 
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I don’t need somebody to complete me / I complete myself / Nobody’s got to belong to somebody else I belong to me / I don’t belong to you / My heart is my possession / I’ll be my own reflection / I belong to me / I’m one not half of two / And you’re gonna love me / You should know this baby / I belong to me take that, jerry maguire. you and your cheesy staccato one-liner…

Over It (Katherine McPhee)
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Don’t call / don’t come by / ain’t no use / don’t ask me why / you’ll never change / there’ll be no more crying in the rain / Wanting you / to be wanting me / No that ain’t no way to be / How I feel, read my lips / because I’m so over.. / Moving on, it’s my time / you never were a friend of mine / Hurt at first, a little bit / but now I’m so over / I’m so over it..

i will not even say anything about this song because i like it. so stop me now.


3 Responses to “music genre: hip and happening heartbroken (sourgraping) women”

  1. 1 ton May 8, 2007 at 8:55 am

    You have to notice though that some if not most of these songs are directed to a specific albeit imaginary person or in response to being failed in some way by their man. So, it’s all very reactive and somehow trying a little too hard to feign hardness which to me still sounds so typical of a woman. In a way, these attitudes are still based on or is obviously trying to go against the concept of the less liberated woman, easily likened to the African-American ordeal with modern racism.

  2. 2 cornerseat May 8, 2007 at 9:47 am

    touche, ton. but this wasn’t always the case, right? please, you were a martial law baby too, don’t you recall songs when we were growing up in the eighties, how both men and women kicked their own ass pining for the ones that got away? that’s a different subject for a different entry then.

  3. 3 ton May 9, 2007 at 4:12 am

    exactly, i was a baby. so i don’t exactly recall any of them. love songs are so over-rated. i bet that more than 90% of all songs that come out are romatic in nature. don’t you just love those politically-inspired songs of the 70s and 80s? they have so much conviction, and they actually mean something. now it’s al too commercialised. and the tagalog ballads of the 70s, 80s and early 90s were great too. yeah, they were love songs, but the lyrics were sheer poetry unlike the songs now. they’re catchy but the content is pretty shallow.

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